Recognize your good days

We will always have bad days. It’s a fact of life that we’re going to have them. Not everyday is bad though. Even when it seems that we are having a bad week, or bad month, or even bad year, not everyday is bad.

Unfortunately, what happens for most of us is we focus on the bad days too much! We dwell on them and fall into this spiral of doubt, helplessness, and frustration.

But not every day is bad. Did you have a day where you were with people you care about? Did you have a day where you laughed until your cheeks hurt?

I don’t want to dismiss the bad days and the hurt or sorrow you may feel in them, but instead to recognize that there is more power in the good days. I want you to realize that power of a good day can erase 100 bad days.

As long as there is tomorrow, as long as life goes on, there is hope for something better ahead for us. Despite all the bad days we may have, when we recognize the good days and celebrate them, life all of a sudden seems hopeful. Life begins to look brighter.

The Enemy sometimes has convinced us (even culture as a whole) to focus on the bad days, to focus on what brings us down instead of what lifts us or others up. He does this because he knows one good day can change everything.

Don’t let bad days take you hostage

Don’t let a bad yesterday ruin a good today.

The Problem with Self Help

self-help1Self help books are constantly the top of many best seller lists.

Constantly, someone comes out with a new book that promises to make you better or make life easier. But my experience has always been we can only help ourselves so much.

Honestly – The problem with self-help is self. We think that alone we can unlock the secrets to the perfect life we long for.

You can’t do it all alone. You aren’t the only one how can help yourself. And sometimes because we are unreliable narrators, we are actually unable to help ourselves or really see where we need to improve.

As good as Russell Wilson is, he needs a team to win. As good as Jake Arrieta pitches, he still need others to score runs. As good as Serena Williams is, she needs a coach to make her the best. As good as Jordan Spieth is, he still needs his caddy’s counsel to make the best shot.

We need others to become the best version of us. We need others to help us reach our goals. Doing it by yourself is lonely. Life is better together.

Unreliable Narrators

crossedfingers“We are all unreliable narrators. Not just in the way we tell our stories to others, but how we tell them to ourselves.” – Deb Caletti

What is an unreliable narrator? In short, it is a narrator whose credibility has been seriously compromised, someone who allows their bias to slant the tale.

This is a literary device sometimes used by authors to bring a different perspective to a story. It is not often used because we the reader end up with a narrow view of what is going on in the story. Most times it’s because a character’s emotions have clouded their perspective, or maybe they lie and exaggerate because they want to look better, or maybe it’s just something as innocent as having gaps in their memory.

Some people don’t like unreliable narrators because they don’t like stories that can be untrusted.

But here’s the thing, like as stated in the quote above, we live our entire life with an unreliable narrator, ourselves. Our point of view and perspective is often skewed, especially by our emotions. Our emotions will try to tell us a different story that what is the truth.

Don’t hear me wrong, your emotions are real. Often times very real, and it’s not bad that you have emotions. But they are often times unreliable to make decisions by.

For example, have you ever sent an email angry only to read it later with regret? Or in your anger have you said something to hurt someone you care about? Maybe you’ve cut yourself of from any support because in your sadness you felt like no one cared about you.

Don’t make permanent mistakes because you are temporarily upset.

When you let emotions cloud run your life, your view will always be limited.

Finding Inspiration

zlHiVHW9Bw0LJX9“You can’t wait for inspiration, you have to go after it with a club.” – Jack London

Don’t sit and wait for inspiration to come to you. It would be like wanting something exciting to happen but you just sit at home watching TV. It is like discovering a beautiful landscape or stunning scenery, you can only find it by going out into the world and going places you’ve never been.

Inspiration doesn’t come to you, you have to pursue it. You have to chase after it because it’s only going to be found by someone who wants to find it.

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The Tortoise and the Hare

Do you remember the story of the tortoise and the hare? I’m sure you do, this is a story I feel every child is told. Slow and steady wins the race – that is the great truth that many adults who tell this story to children want to convoy.

When I look back to the story of the tortoise and the hare, there are two things we can learn that I think is screaming at us to understand, and neither is slow and stead wins the race.

First, focus on you. When we look at the tortoise in this story, one thing that he does is run his race. He isn’t concerned about the race the hare is running. If he tried to keep up with the hare, he would tire out and quit the race. Also, when he saw the hare napping if he decided to take a break himself, the hare might wake up and beat him to the finish line. But no, the tortoise ran his race at his pace, being confident in his skills and worrying more about finishing the race.

Second is don’t be arrogant. If we look at the story, the tortoise didn’t win because slow and steady wins the race, the tortoise wins because the hare gets so far ahead that he decides to take a nap. In his arrogance, he believed that even with taking a nap he could still win the race.

So next time you hear the story of the tortoise and the hare, or you read it to a child, remember what we need to learn is NOT slow and steady wins the race, instead learn to focus on you and don’t be arrogant.

Both good life lessons, no matter how old you are.

Life is like a Puzzle


I’m not the biggest fan of puzzles. If I do them myself, I take my time and follow the boring typical western way of doing in, slowly look at the pieces until I find the edge pieces. Then, even slower, start piecing together the middle until it’s done. And that is if I even finish the puzzle, because many times by then I get bored or I get frustrated because it’s difficult.

In addition, I can’t finish a puzzle unless I have the final picture to look at and work from.

But, when I do finish one, there is a giant sense of satisfaction that comes when you see the picture that you pieced together and knowing that you connected all those little parts to create one complete picture.

Sometimes though, I think about puzzles and how much like life they are. Think about it for a second. There are many things in our life that start out a jumbled mess and whether working alone with with others we start to piece everything together until it starts to look like what we want it to.

But unlike most puzzles, we don’t always know what the finish product will look like. We sometimes expect we should see the whole picture from the beginning. We expect this so much that often times we don’t even get started because of this.

It’s like we should know how every moment fits into when we first see it. But this handcuffs us. This stops us from even starting, and as a result we miss out on so much or we never piece together important moments in our life.

Life is like a puzzle, except with no finished picture to build from. That doesn’t mean we can’t start to piece together the puzzle that is our life without knowing what it looks like. That’s the joy in life, not knowing where everything leads. We don’t know what our life will look like when it’s finished, we don’t know how people and experiences fit together until it’s already past. And like a puzzle, sometimes the picture doesn’t start to become clear until we start fitting those pieces together – and not until then!

It would be like reading a mystery novel when you already know the answer, or watching a thriller film when we already know the twist, life isn’t meant to be enjoyed that way. You may not know what it is supposed to look like from the beginning, but that just means that the final picture can only be known when we put everything together.

So start fitting pieces together. Look back and make the connections, put them together and you’ll start to see the masterpiece of your life.

Everything Costs Something

freedom01There is an old saying that there is no such thing as a free lunch. The idea behind this saying is that there is a cost to everything, and I’m not talking about a monetary price. For that free lunch of yours, someone had to not only buy the food but take the time to prepare it as well. So if it’s not free for someone to offer something like this, why do they do it? The answer is clear that there are some things worth more than money.

Although this should be obvious I’m going to say it anyways – The greater something is, the more it costs.

The cost of a free lunch is not the same as getting into shape. The cost of sitting on the TV is not the same as creating. Each of these have a cost, some of us are okay with paying and others we are not. The cost of being successful is high, but the cost of freedom is higher.

On the heels of Memorial Day where we honor the men and women who have died to protect our freedoms, I am reminded that even freedom has a cost. You can’t pay for freedom with money or you can’t barter for it with your favorite material item in your house. Freedom comes with an even greater cost, blood. Why pay such a high price for this? Because it’s worth it. Men and women across the world not only serve, but die to pay the price for our freedoms. They believe that the freedoms they protect is worth more than their life. For that I am grateful!