What would happen if you took those chances that you frequently ignore or even are too afraid to take? Not the chances that you don’t take because they are dangerous, but the ones where you have to be vulnerable.
I’ve said recently that fear is stupid, yet we listen to it and take it’s advice so often. It lies to us, and yet we are so quick to believe it.
What if, instead, we allowed ourselves to be awkward and tell someone we love them. What if we listened to our inner voice prompting us to say hello to a stranger. Stop asking what if!
I’m not saying we should be reckless or don’t use common sense, but there are so many things that we don’t do that we wish we did because we’re scared of… something. Something that we honestly shouldn’t be scared of.
Sometimes we are more concerned with staying comfortable. We don’t grow when we are comfortable. Stop staying comfortable, nothing amazing happens there.
Law #25: Life is better when shared
In 2007, a movie adaptation of the book Into the Wild was made. The popular story had a very quotable quote – “Happiness is only real when shared”
The root of Law #25 was formed from this movie quote. Sharing happiness and experiences is better than not.
But there was always something that didn’t sit right with me. To me, it implies that happy isn’t real when it’s not shared. While there might be some truth in the intent of this quote, I have done many things and travelled places on my own and to say the happiness I experienced isn’t real would be false. I’ve loved it in fact. The places I’ve seen, the culture I’ve experienced, these things have created great memories and brought me a large amount of happiness.
BUT… I would be lying if denied the fact that sometimes I wish I had some one to share some of those experiences and memories with. Someone to take pictures with. Some who I can sit in a coffee shop with in 10 years and laugh about our adventures together.
So while happiness is real when not shared. There is NO doubt that life is better when shared. Life is not about what we get to do and see, it’s about the people who we do and see those things with. It’s just better together.
In all this Jurassic World craze, I watched the two sequels on TV. There was a line from Jurassic Park 3 that struck me, Dr. Grant seemingly lost his friend and was talking to Erik, a young boy who he was rescuing from the dinosaur island. He mentioned that there was a difference between astronomers and astronauts.
“The astronomer… gets to study these amazing things from a place of complete safety.”
Then Erik, whom he was talking to said, “But then you never get to go into space.”
Now by all means this in no way was meant to say that what astronomers do are stupid and will never make a difference. The root of what Dr. Grant was saying that if you’re living as an astronomer because you are scared of being an astronaut, then something is wrong. Dr. Grant was pointing out that his friend was living in a way that scared him because of his previous experiences.
Because of previous experiences he was paralyzed and afraid to take risks. Despite the new age of his profession he wanted to stay back, do what he always did from the safety of his dig site. And in doing that he ended up risking more than he realized.
But… Going to space is about boldly going where no man has one has gone before. To get something that you’ve never had, you’re going to have to do something you’ve never done. And you can never do that from the safety of your comfort zone.
Law #22: Safe is risky
Law #25: Life is better when shared
Law #2: Make time for things that matter
If you don’t, you’ll go through your whole life and not do the things you want to do or see the people that you care about. Stop making excuses about not having the time and go out there and MAKE time.
Law #6: Get out of your comfort zone