What I’d Tell 18 Year Old Me

A friend of mine posted a couple of blogs a while back with the premise of writing a letter to her younger self. She of course eloquently articulated some great advice, and it don’t apply only to herself.

Of course in talking about this with her I joked that my advice to my younger self would be short and simple – “You’re an idiot. Stop pretending you’re not!”

Honestly, that is not just a joke. I would 100% tell my younger self that he was an idiot. It’s not that I was stupid and couldn’t do anything right, but when I look back at some of the things I did, said, and worried about, I wonder “What was I thinking!”

It’s been now been 15 years since I was 18, 15 years since high school. I’ve basically lived twice as long, so much as happened and I’ve changed so much. I’m a completely different person, and I’m proud of all the hard work I needed to do to become the person I am today. So now that I’m 15 years down the line, with 15 years more experience and wisdom, what would I tell myself?

What prompted me to expand on my original advice. Twitter of course. A trending topic was #whatidtell18yearoldme. And just getting a few favorites and retweets inspired me to write this post.

So without further ado – here are 15 things I’d tell my 18 year old self:

1.) Stop letting your fears make decisions for you
2.) Take more risks
3.) Invite people into your life
4.) People are thinking of you a whole lot less than you believe
5.) Everyone has a story to tell. They aren’t just extras in yours
6.) Your decisions define who you are, not your intentions
7.) You know what else doesn’t define you, other’s opinions
8.) Because of that – Being “cool” is not a good goal in life
9.) Appreciate others generosity, don’t take it for granted
10.) Stop worrying so much, it doesn’t make any situation better
11.) Do a better job of keeping in touch with others
12.) Don’t be afraid to ask her out
13.) Keep going, the beginning is always the hardest
14.) Travel more
15.) His grace is all you need

The funny thing is, this will probably be advice that I’ll have to tell myself in 15 years to the current me! Sometimes the things we wish we learned years ago we are still struggling to learn now.

Even “You’re an idiot. Stop pretending you’re not.”

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Max Lucado, part 6
-Share the bread of life. After all, if we don’t, who will?
-No I or ME or YOU. We are in this together. We are more than followers of Christ. “We are parts of his body” (Eph. 5:30).
-The cross, meant as a tool of shame, was actually a badge of honor bestowed one time to one man, Jesus of Nazareth.-
-God has posted signs everywhere we look: in the universe, in Scripture, w/in our own hearts.
-It’s against God’s nature to remember forgiven sins.
-Your eyes see your faults. Your faith sees your Savior.-
-You may go days without thinking of God, but there’s never a moment when he’s not thinking of you.
-Before you go anywhere else with your disappointments, go to God.
-No one can do everything, but everyone can do something.

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John Piper
-“You WILL carry out God’s purpose. But it makes a difference to you whether you serve like Judas or like John.” -CS Lewis
-An easy way to gather a wimpy army is to summon all the soldiers who are boldly determined not to sound like fundamentalists.
-We need God in ways we do not know. Don’t limit your experience of God to what you can think to ask. Ask for the unknown joy.
-One effect of forgetting God. “Israel has forgotten his maker and built palaces.” — Hosea 8:14
-No fruit on the vine. No food from the field. No flock in the fold. Yet will I rejoice in the Lord (Habakkuk 3:17-18).
-“To most people God is an inference, not a reality.” A. W. Tozer. Lord, open the eyes of my heart! Ephesians 1:18
-Submission to Christ without submission to the Scriptures is submission to a self-made Christ, not submission to Christ.
-If you say, “My bad habit only hurts myself,” you are saying, “the people God created me to serve don’t matter.”
-Daily Bible reading is the work of kings. (Deuteronomy 17:19)
-One of the great uses of Twitter and Facebook will be to prove at the Last Day that prayerlessness was not from lack of time.

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Rev Run, part 6
-A womans heart should be so close to God that a man should have to chase Him to have her! -C.W Lewis
-Immature love wants a fun time…. mature love wants a lifetime
-The Lord will make perfect those things which concern me – Psalms 138:8
-Get ur worrys & dreams out of ur head & into God’s hands!
-He who keeps wishing for more will always feel poor
-When life knocks you down on your knees,, that’s a good indication that you need to pray!
-I know,, I know,, Youre a lover not a fighter,,, BUT will u fight for what you love?
-A Godly man is never threatened by the gifts of a Godly woman -R. Warren
-Lord above all things I pray that my life & actions PLEASES YOU.. I Love You
-a man searches all over the world 4 what he thinks he needs, & when he returns home he finds it. family
-When you find true friendship,, you find true love
-I’m sooo happy that I don’t have to face life without God
-God gave u 86,400 seconds today,, did u take 1 to say thankyou? – Willam A Ward
-Never look down on someone unless ur helping them up

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Rick Warren, part 6
-You’ll often recieve your brightest insights during your darkest days IF you humbly listen to God in quiet trust.
-The greatest relational lessons come from relational pain…financial lessons from financial pain, health lessons from…etc
-Pain warns you something’s wrong. Without it, you’d ignore what needs to be fixed in your life.What needs changing in you?
-Live today in such a way that you’re sure to fail unless God helps you. That’s Living by Faith. Trusting requires risking.
-If you’re praying about it God’s working on it.
-3 purposes of a daily time alone with God:To give devotion to Him, get direction from Him, grow daily in Him. Don’t miss it
-When offended by others tell God, not gossipers.Take it to the Throne, not the phone!God reduces hurt.Gossips reinforce it.
-Suicide bombers are murderers,not martyrs. Martyrs are killed BY OTHERS for refusing to renounce their faith.
-No one counterfeits $3 bills since they don’t exist. Phony miracles,churches & believers indicate the genuine is out there.
-To grow a mature faith u must learn to trust that God is working in other’s lives even when you disagree with theim.
-The most effective witnesses are those who deeply love people because they deeply feel how much Jesus loves them

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Praise Jesus, part 2
-just when I got nothing left, that’s when I find you !
-for you GIVE eternal life. Thank you !!!!
-praising my Lord for standing by me all the time.
-praising the Lord of my Salvation. Glory to your name Jesus!
-Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
-protect my family and my loved ones. Remind me to love them the way you do.
-dear Lord – I rejoice in the fact that I will receive more than I give when I serve you.
-Help us, our God. May your mercy come quickly to meet us. for your name’s sake, renew us and make us right with you. Atone for our sin. Thx
-I praise you that my salvation is a free gift based on faith with a little f…
-Our Lord God is ONE. He is Holy, full of compassion, love and patience, but He is a devouring fire.
-for those who have worked beyond their strengths, Lord – I thank you and ask that you grant them extra rest. Your peace for them. Replenish

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Max Lucado, part 5
-The Lord is with us. And, since the Lord is near, everything is different. Everything!
-Life on earth is just the first letter of the first sentence in the first chapter of the great story God is writing with your life.
-Every act of heaven reveals God’s glory. Every act of Jesus did the same.
-The charter members of the Jerusalem church didn’t have much. In fact, they had nothing more than a fire in the belly to change the world.
-As a father, I’ve never regretted making time to spend with my daughters. But I have regretted not doing so. Dads, let’s do it while we can!
-“The only hope of a decreasing self is an increasing Christ.” F.B. Meyer
-The one thing the first century society had going for them was a willingness to take a step when Jesus said, “Follow me.”
-“Before honor is humility.” (Pr.15:33)
-With whom do you feel most fluent? Teenagers? Drug addicts? The elderly, children, executives? This is how God designed you.
-God’s grace knows no limits. It empowers us in this life and enables us to live in the next.
-God loves you. Personally. Powerfully. Passionately.

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