Recognize your good days

We will always have bad days. It’s a fact of life that we’re going to have them. Not everyday is bad though. Even when it seems that we are having a bad week, or bad month, or even bad year, not everyday is bad.

Unfortunately, what happens for most of us is we focus on the bad days too much! We dwell on them and fall into this spiral of doubt, helplessness, and frustration.

But not every day is bad. Did you have a day where you were with people you care about? Did you have a day where you laughed until your cheeks hurt?

I don’t want to dismiss the bad days and the hurt or sorrow you may feel in them, but instead to recognize that there is more power in the good days. I want you to realize that power of a good day can erase 100 bad days.

As long as there is tomorrow, as long as life goes on, there is hope for something better ahead for us. Despite all the bad days we may have, when we recognize the good days and celebrate them, life all of a sudden seems hopeful. Life begins to look brighter.

The Enemy sometimes has convinced us (even culture as a whole) to focus on the bad days, to focus on what brings us down instead of what lifts us or others up. He does this because he knows one good day can change everything.

Don’t let bad days take you hostage

Don’t let a bad yesterday ruin a good today.

The Problem with Self Help

self-help1Self help books are constantly the top of many best seller lists.

Constantly, someone comes out with a new book that promises to make you better or make life easier. But my experience has always been we can only help ourselves so much.

Honestly – The problem with self-help is self. We think that alone we can unlock the secrets to the perfect life we long for.

You can’t do it all alone. You aren’t the only one how can help yourself. And sometimes because we are unreliable narrators, we are actually unable to help ourselves or really see where we need to improve.

As good as Russell Wilson is, he needs a team to win. As good as Jake Arrieta pitches, he still need others to score runs. As good as Serena Williams is, she needs a coach to make her the best. As good as Jordan Spieth is, he still needs his caddy’s counsel to make the best shot.

We need others to become the best version of us. We need others to help us reach our goals. Doing it by yourself is lonely. Life is better together.

Finding Inspiration

zlHiVHW9Bw0LJX9“You can’t wait for inspiration, you have to go after it with a club.” – Jack London

Don’t sit and wait for inspiration to come to you. It would be like wanting something exciting to happen but you just sit at home watching TV. It is like discovering a beautiful landscape or stunning scenery, you can only find it by going out into the world and going places you’ve never been.

Inspiration doesn’t come to you, you have to pursue it. You have to chase after it because it’s only going to be found by someone who wants to find it.

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The Tortoise and the Hare

Do you remember the story of the tortoise and the hare? I’m sure you do, this is a story I feel every child is told. Slow and steady wins the race – that is the great truth that many adults who tell this story to children want to convoy.

When I look back to the story of the tortoise and the hare, there are two things we can learn that I think is screaming at us to understand, and neither is slow and stead wins the race.

First, focus on you. When we look at the tortoise in this story, one thing that he does is run his race. He isn’t concerned about the race the hare is running. If he tried to keep up with the hare, he would tire out and quit the race. Also, when he saw the hare napping if he decided to take a break himself, the hare might wake up and beat him to the finish line. But no, the tortoise ran his race at his pace, being confident in his skills and worrying more about finishing the race.

Second is don’t be arrogant. If we look at the story, the tortoise didn’t win because slow and steady wins the race, the tortoise wins because the hare gets so far ahead that he decides to take a nap. In his arrogance, he believed that even with taking a nap he could still win the race.

So next time you hear the story of the tortoise and the hare, or you read it to a child, remember what we need to learn is NOT slow and steady wins the race, instead learn to focus on you and don’t be arrogant.

Both good life lessons, no matter how old you are.

Answering No for Someone Else

nope_525The fear of rejection is real. I understand this all too well. As I’m sure many of you can relate, I have lived too much of my life fearing rejection. Fear that the girl you like will say no. Fear the job you want to get will hire someone else. Fear the part you auditioned for will be given to someone else.

So what will we be prone to do? Answer no for them. “Why should I ask for that raise? They won’t give it to me.” Or “Why should I even try out for that team? They will just pick someone else.”

We’ll get to the point where instead of asking for that thing we want, we’ll just answer no for them. Then sit on our butts daydreaming of what might of been and maybe even resenting them for the no we answered for them.

This might be one of the biggest things that steals life from us! Stop it! Whether we fear it or not, life will be boring and uneventful if we don’t take any chances. If we don’t stop thinking negative and wonder for just a moment, What if they say yes? What if they give it to me? What if I get it?

Sometimes, to live a life that we want to live, we need to get off our butts, give fear the middle finger, and just go for it! Sure you might get rejected, but it’s not the end of the world (even though the fear tries to tell you that).

It may be cliche, but it’s a good mantra to live by – Live a life full of “oh well’s” instead of “what if’s”